Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Oh Mother


What have you been up to these past few weeks? No one asks. Most of you already know I had a baby and that it was recently Mother's Day. I thought I'd fill you on a few details, but keep your expectations low and your patience high.


Here I am the morning of my scheduled C-section. (p.s. I'd like a new term for C-section. It's time we moved on.) "Justin, quick! Take a last ever shot of me pregnant!" Here I'm trying to think about how excited I am to see and touch my new little baby in just 3 short hours, rather than 'hey, they're going to cut me open in just 2.5 short hours'.

All set to go! This photo proves my lack of vanity. The creepy anesthesiologist already came in and gave me a pep talk that freaked me out. I won't give you all the details but he prattled on about how I might feel contractions, even with a spinal, when my uterus was out of my body, because-funny thing-it just does that sometimes! Also that about 50% of patients throw-up in the operating room anyways so I'm free to join that statistic.

I am near panic when the nurse announces it's time for me to wear a hat and walk down the hall to surgery. At this time Justin sneaks the above photo. I decide never, ever to have surgery again while awake and conscious. (So that rules out further C-sections and brain surgery?)

Still I have a lot to look forward to and here are the highlights:

Hearing her cry for the first time! Then Justin brings her over for me to take a look and nervously analyze which feature comes from which parent.

As soon as I'm stapled back together I'm given the baby to nurse. All 4 of my children have been aggressive nurses from the first hour of life. When thinking about this ahead of time, it is a little concerning to me because this is what I am like:

Loopy. And they're trusting me to hold an infant?? I made Justin promise to watch me carefully so I wouldn't drop the baby on the floor. Fortunately it's human instinct to not drop your children. My face is red because the anesthesia makes me itch and I clawed at it all day. Does it jazz up the photo to know I had been puking but no one brought me a toothbrush, ever, and I didn't even care?

That same afternoon the boys came to the hospital to meet their new sister. "Boys! Put on a striped shirt, no, don't worry about your hair, just get down here as fast as you can!"


Perfect. A blank slate. What did we name her? It took a couple of days, but, wait for it..


Violet Marie

There were so many names to choose from! I could have renamed all the girl babies in the hospital. Thank you for all your suggestions. I picked Violet because, as my mom said, "I love the flower, I love the scent, I love the color, and I love the name." Marie is a family name.

Here's how I sold Justin on the name. Outside our front door I have a giant pot of pansies/violets growing. I conspired with my mom and she brought one of the smaller pots to the hospital on day one and we snuck a flower behind her ear. "Oh look who wants to be named Violet". And because Justin is a visual kind of guy, he totally fell for it.

Jump to Mother's Day. I usually don't give all the M.Day's details because one of Justin's talents is being thoughtful and generous on holidays and I don't want another mother who's reading to feel jilted or that her family loves her less if her husband doesn't bake, cook, clean, bring flowers, and buy gifts. It has me slightly concerned about my performance on Father's Day.

One thing I've been doing a lot of since having a baby ? Laying around? Yes! And eating lots of chocolate. Seriously, every day. I need the endorphins. My Easter stash was gone and Justin was nice enough to replenish. Also, he gives me roses every year. I need to get better at arranging roses.

Brunch
Saturday night Justin was downstairs baking up a storm. I heard the clatter of rolling pins, the mixer running, at 11:15 he came and asked me if we had any powdered sugar (we didn't) and he didn't come to bed till well after 1am. In the morning I found that he had made two quiches, see above, and pancake cookies, see below.

Also, lobster tacos for dinner. One of the best parts was that Justin took the little boys shopping the day before and they were gone for 4 long hours. They picked out the above placemates. I enjoyed laying around all day and being fed delicious food.

Here are the cookies he invented. I'll say this- I don't like pancakes very much but I love these cookies. I ate a stack, if you know what I mean. If you want the recipe, check it out here. You're free to try the recipe but don't submit it to any contests. Justin's sure that he can submit it to Betty Crocker and win a college education.

Lastly, it wouldn't be a Mother's Day post with out mentioning my own beloved Mother. She came and took care of both me and my family while I was at the hospital and recovering, for TWO weeks. Thanks Mom.

12 comments:

Real said...

Congratulations! Also, I've heard it called giving birth abdominally. I never liked that at all, but maybe you do?

Jeni said...

Glad you had a good M Day. You are truly blessed with your family. And I must say your mom still looks the same a she did when more years ago then I will admit to.

Stacie said...

Hooray! What exciting times. There was no quiche at our house on Mother's Day...my kids wanted to bring me breakfast in bed, and their food choice was cereal! Glad you had a nice day, Mother of Four now!

Bekah: said...

You are surrounded by so much beauty! I love the potted flowers on your porch. I love the roses. I love the brunch and the lunch. I hope that my snarky comment on Facebook was taken as a joke. I am very curious about all this talk of wigs and kittens.

Janalee said...

you actually look really good in the itchy face picture.

haha- youre boys look perfectly fine. is that their worst?

now I want some pancake cookies desperately .

and two weeks she was there? how wonderful.

Chris P. said...

And I am sure that your mom loved every minute of those two weeks! It's this weird grandmothering gene. We just love being with our daughters when they procreate...and holding those precious little parts of our posterity gives us an uncontrollable need to cook, clean and pamper. So happy you're feeling well and enjoying new motherhood for the fourth time. Congrats :-)!!

Trac said...

Congratulations! Violet is beautiful! Your Mom came and helped me in the Sunbeam class one week. I have to say, she is so great!

Carrie said...

great name.

Melissa Myers said...

Violet is beautiful! (The baby and the name.) Congratulations!

Janalee said...

so we have to start all over with the comments? that's crap.

Alisha said...

Sorry, all the previous comments but one were deleted and I don't know why. It was when Blogger was acting up. It's not because I found the well-wishes inappropriate.

Thank for the nice comments that were deleted by Blogger!

Angie K. said...

Happy Mother's Day Alish! I love your gorgeous baby. I love her pretty name. Your life is like perfection, isn't it? Well done.

Justin needs to write a book about all his tricks on how to really spoil a wife. Every wife would buy it to give to their husband. It would be given to every newlywed couple so for sure it would be a bestseller on the New York Times list. I would be feeling the pressure on Father's day too if I were you.

Hope you are doing very well. I'll call you soon.