Again, I have been in a slump, not posting very often and only taking the easy questions when I do. Let's blame it on summer. Come September I'll make it up to you baby, I promise. Today is no different, it's a little bland. It's the plain oatmeal of blog posts. Are you sold yet?
Justin loves this tasteful idea.
Dear Alisha,
What is your opinion of giving cash as a wedding gift? I know that when my husband and myself got married, this was our favorite gift. However, I have heard criticism stating it is tacky and not personal. But part of me thinks that point of view is kind of old school. What do you think? Would you give cash as a wedding gift?
Sincerely,
J. Ca$h
Dear J. Cash,
Yes. Yes I would because I liked getting money when we were married. It just came in so handy. I also really like gift cards to stores I like to shop at. If some one I was close to was marrying, say one of my sisters yet again, I would probably think of a slightly more personal gift, but in most cases I think cash in both appropriate and appreciated. Unless the couple is already rich. Then you'd better just buy something off their registry and roll your eyes.
The opposite to giving cash is a handmade gift. We were given several handmade decorative items. At the time I felt sad looking at the wasted time, effort, and even expense of the wooden key holder with our name tole painted on it or other crafty items. They were not used like the thoughtless $30 dollar checks. But now I sort of remember them with fondness. Wasn't that cute, I think. Cute but useless.
There is really no question here Readers, if you have an opinion, feel free to chime in.
I know I could ask "What was your worst wedding gift", but I'm feeling apathetic. If someone bothered to give you a gift, be grateful.
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I agree, we loved getting cash/checks when we got money. But we also loved getting things off our registry. And really lets face it, we were grateful for whatever people were kind enough to give us. I just think that everyone has what they like to give and luckily it is different for most people so you get a little of everything. It just works out great. But the one thing that you can't get too much of, unlike toasters, vases, and handmade crafts, is money. So give what you want. They will be grateful. (especially when it buys that dinner on their honeymoon, or the stuff off their registry they didn't get)
oops, I mean we loved getting cash/check when we got *married*
I think any bride and groom would much prefer cold hard cash to just about anything on their registry. I usually try to think along the lines of "are they students? are they likely to be moving frequently in the next few years?" is their storage space likely to be very limited?" when deciding on a gift. If the answer to any of the above is yes, I go with a gift card or just a check. Impersonal, perhaps, but certainly much much more useful.
I very rarely give money or gift cards... I work close to a target so it doesn't take long to pop in and grab something off their registry...
But I just like getting good deals on things, and as I tell my husband money and gift cards are never on sale so they always know how much we spent. Call me old fashioned but whether it's inexpensive or not, I don't like people to know how much I paid. Exceptions are mailng checks and sometimes if the couple is about to move or has to transport all the gifts out of state... But normally I can still find something small but appropriate.
I like to give cash, but that's just because I'm lazy. I hate trying to shop for other people.
i agree. it was nice getting cash as a wedding present. but, we didn't register. maybe i'm not totally in-the-know with it but i think that's almost a bit tacky.
no?
and i'm interested to hear your thoughts on jeggings and boyfriend jeans... :)
Asian culture, we give money, intention is to help the couple out to start their life together and pay for the wedding. If you did a typical Asian banquet; chinese restaurant with 7-10 course meal. You can rack in $25K easily. Half you can say is a profit. Yes, I said rack and profit b/c that's how some wedding couple see it, like a business transaction, and it's just a whole bunch of people they don't even know. I got $18K and it didn't pay off my wedding, but it was the wedding I wanted with 100 people. I say I didn't know 10 people.
Lien
I really loved the gifts I got for my wedding. Some of them really cracked me up because of the personality of the giver.
But cash was really useful. We started off with a great fund just from the wedding cash, which was so appreciated since we were both still students. The real gifts were nice, and I think it's fun to get a nice thing you wouldn't buy for yourself for awhile.
It seems like we get around two or three wedding announcements a month. If I know the parents well, but not the kid getting married then I just give cash b/c I am too lazy to make an extra stop.
What bugs me is announcements from people I BARELY know about.
I remember that key holder! I think I spent a whole day tole painting it!
;-P
No, you didn't Penni! You gave me a framed copy of the Proclamation on the Family, which we hung up.
I like to give cash because I often don't have the same decorating taste as the bride and groom. Sometimes I just cannot bear to buy what they have asked for. It sounds terrible, but I know with cash they can just go buy what the don't get/ need.
One of my favorite gifts was very practical. My aunt gave us a giftcard to a grocery store. We were poor college students when we got married so we held onto te giftcard until we really needed it.
I'm a little late putting my two cents in on this one, but I loved getting money from people when I got married. It gave us the freedom to buy the things we really needed. Neither one of us had a dish to our name, so it was great to take that kind of dough to the store and get what we wanted.
However, we also received some hand-made stuff and let me tell you, it was no ordinary hand-made wall-hangings. One of them was a hand-crafted, super large picture frame, hand painted, with "The Family: A proclamation to the world" blown up professionally. Another was a Vinyl lettering of our last name in the same font that we used on our wedding announcements (which I was in love with.) and the year we were married on a painted black piece of wood. Sort of LDS cliche, but I love it.
It's hard not to be grateful when people put effort into not only showing up at your reception, but giving you a gift.
Being one of the "yet again" sisters, (ive been married twice, and still married thank you) I found cash handy for the honeymoon.
However, if the couple is not young and or in college, it is an inappropriate gift In those rare weddings, we go off the registery. After all, they know what they want.
I'm a "yet again" sister (happily married), and I don't like cash. Broke or just fine, I never spend it on myself. I've always managed financially in life, but if a gift is cash, I spend it on something practical. Or on my daughter. I say gift cards or gifts WITH A GIFT RECIPT.
There's nothing wrong with giving cash to a young couple as a wedding gift. It's tacky for a couple to ASK for cash. But unless the newlyweds' culture is one where cash is THE gift to give (for some it is), what a guest gives as a wedding present is entirely up to the guest. If cash or gift cards seem impersonal to you, you're free to give something else.
I've never met anyone so offended by receiving cash that they weren't willing to spend it.
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